angriness

Im going to supplement giving girls the crazy eye with some onlineness. First though some details need to be worked out. 1) How long do you give yourself before getting involved with someone after someone else hurt you. 2) How do you go into a relationship knowing full well that your lifestyle will change considerably within 6 months. 3) How do you stay ice cold in the face of such rampant sexuality and so many beautiful radiant women.

Initially inclined to wait until I stopped thinking about the ex a dozen times a day, it seems better now to just get on with things. She got me out of her mind with a new body right quick, there is something to be said for replacement. Now if I were still in contact with her, it would be questionable, and as mentioned I was in contact with her for much too long, but having cut connections it seems quite worth considering me then having moved on.

Six months is a long time. Although these ruminations are designed for the sensitive listener, myself, its not worth it to stay single for that long because you are leaving town. Better to date several people and if things get heavy, then break talk about the plans to go somewhere. Heavy means seeing people more than twice a week, getting down, regularly. For me that is. Apart from the one night stand, regular sex is not for more than one at once, not for my brain at least.

You stay ice cold by hearing about how horrible and half alive it is on the other side of the fence. To live as though connected through air to another. Yes I do wish to be there one day, and I do wish to date in the meantime, but seriously, there are advantages to being not tied down, including the excitement of running a bar or a party, eyes all over, the night wide open. You get less mindnumbing ejaculations, you get less warmth and yummy sharedness, but there will be time enough for that later. At least for me right now thats the case. The old 35 year old finish line looms large, but there is time enough yet to wander.

So the bottom line, fully qualified (meaning better than average at least) Im getting the F out there. Match and Craigs, here I is. Girls on the train, bewarey yo selves.

In this time of rapid and vapid communication it seems worth it to talk a bit on the last post more because, well, I have yet to understand my advice. You cannot expect a person to state or otherwise confirm that they are not going to try to meet your expectations. Even if they love you, believe them or do not, the ultimate bottom line is yours. Did the person fulfill your expectations, or not. If not, you hopefully have two choices. Turn away, or accept. By accept I mean decide that you will not cut them out of your life, but that you will wait until you can communicate to them in a productive manner. Because some relief can be found in writing letters or email to people who you care about, it is very tempting to continue relentlessly to convince someone to act differently. You have to implement some kind of limit if you are going to survive, and remember that you are part of a community, so its not only you that suffers when somebody treats you wrong and you give into being hurt for weeks and weeks and months or years or forever. Your obligation is to yourself, and to defining limits to your detrimental emotions. These emotions promoted continuity of the species before, but in this world, I think that they are more likely to cause recursive trapsetting. Pain and disgust and hurt do well sometimes to keep one inside until they have come to terms with the status of a relationship. These emotions often also drive people out to distraction where dangerous mistakes can be made. There are STDs with no name or test, you do have a choice always if you stop and think. Yes, humans seem all flawed for tragedy, but no you dont have to just throw yourself into the night to get over your pain. Most likely that pain will not be decimated. Apparently forgotten, it will remain and be built into resident memory no matter what. Coming to terms with pain allows you to reshape and direct the associations of pain so that you can stand taller, not drunker.