angriness

In this time of rapid and vapid communication it seems worth it to talk a bit on the last post more because, well, I have yet to understand my advice. You cannot expect a person to state or otherwise confirm that they are not going to try to meet your expectations. Even if they love you, believe them or do not, the ultimate bottom line is yours. Did the person fulfill your expectations, or not. If not, you hopefully have two choices. Turn away, or accept. By accept I mean decide that you will not cut them out of your life, but that you will wait until you can communicate to them in a productive manner. Because some relief can be found in writing letters or email to people who you care about, it is very tempting to continue relentlessly to convince someone to act differently. You have to implement some kind of limit if you are going to survive, and remember that you are part of a community, so its not only you that suffers when somebody treats you wrong and you give into being hurt for weeks and weeks and months or years or forever. Your obligation is to yourself, and to defining limits to your detrimental emotions. These emotions promoted continuity of the species before, but in this world, I think that they are more likely to cause recursive trapsetting. Pain and disgust and hurt do well sometimes to keep one inside until they have come to terms with the status of a relationship. These emotions often also drive people out to distraction where dangerous mistakes can be made. There are STDs with no name or test, you do have a choice always if you stop and think. Yes, humans seem all flawed for tragedy, but no you dont have to just throw yourself into the night to get over your pain. Most likely that pain will not be decimated. Apparently forgotten, it will remain and be built into resident memory no matter what. Coming to terms with pain allows you to reshape and direct the associations of pain so that you can stand taller, not drunker.